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“…as life happens there are tons of ups and downs. It’s a journey of discovery – there are moments on mountaintops and moments in deep valleys of despair.”-Rick Warren
Emotionally, it is so hard being a caregiver…if the patient is down, you can’t help but be down yourself even while trying to lift the patient’s spirits. So, yes, everyday, I go through with mom what we are grateful for: “Getting up…” “You” (meaning me and me meaning mom), having her own home and her family nearby, etc.
I don’t believe she’s eating enough. I prepare the meals. I am so much more lenient now because I want her to eat. My cousin said buy those Ensure drinks…Mom will never ever touch those things. We saw the gastro dr. this past Friday and continuing on the Asacol. This Thursday we’ll see her regular dr who is her cardiologist and internist. He’ll see that mom has lost weight, she’s at her high school weight of 160lbs, that part she likes. I bought some lox so tomorrow she’ll have a little lox and cream cheese on a half a bagel and I hope she eats the whole half of the bagel! Today I got a 2″ diameter blueberry pancake into her for breakfast with a coffee, that’s it. For lunch she ate a little cheddar cheese over a little chopped salad and some matzo (no, not a whole board of matzo). For dinner she has a little potted chicken, meaning 2 of the “leg” portions of the wing with rice, greenbeans and carrots. I’ve been juggling watching what she eats to get the glucose level down (she won’t go on diabetic meds), but wanting to provide foods that she will eat. Did I tell you she loved the 6 steamed shrimp dumplings last week and ate all 6 in one sitting??? That was unbelievable. I am getting a shrimp with lobster sauce lunch on Friday that she’ll have for dinner Friday and Saturday.
Mom’s spirits were better from the get-go this morning, so if her spirits are better, then mine are too. We’re connected, folks, what can I tell you. There are many ups & downs to caregiving, but we have to go through them and navigate them the best way we can.
Today my son called mom from India and that is always a source of happiness for mom. My daughter calls her several times a day as I’ve previously mentioned. This Friday she’ll see her granddaughter because she’s coming to sleep over and spend some time with her grams. My children are mom’s only grandchildren and they mean the world to her and she means the world to them. They’ve a very close bond.